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How to Trust a New Partner After Past Trauma


A history of trauma can make all relationships difficult. But if you’re still healing, starting a new romantic relationship may be particularly triggering. Learning to trust your partner and enjoy your relationship takes time, but it’s possible. Here are some tips for trusting a new partner after trauma.


Take Your Time


Healing from trauma is a long process. And while your past doesn’t need to stop you from entering relationships, you can certainly move at your own pace. Remember, it’s okay to take it slow while you learn to trust your partner. You’re benefiting your own mental and behavioral health by moving at a pace you’re comfortable with.


Be Open With Your Partner


When you’re ready, it’s important to be open with your partner about your past trauma. Then you can work through your trust issues and other obstacles together. Your partner can learn how to better support you and help you avoid specific triggers.


This conversation can be hard, but you don’t have to open up all at once. Start by sharing what you’re comfortable discussing. You can always come back to the topic again when you’re ready.


See Your Therapist


Healing from trauma requires a support team. Mental health counseling services will be a key resource as you start your new relationship. Through individual counseling, you will explore your past trauma and develop strategies to start trusting more. Your therapist can also refer you to psychiatry services if they think that medication may be helpful in your treatment plan.


As you and your partner start your relationship, it may be beneficial for them to see a counselor as well. Getting this type of support will help them be a more attentive and understanding partner. Plus, they can start working through any behavioral health challenges of their own.


Remember Self Care


No one can pour from an empty cup. When you take care of yourself, you will feel more comfortable in your relationships. Meeting your basic needs, taking time to destress, and making space for hobbies are all part of a self-care routine. Not sure where to start? You might consider working with a wellness coach. They will help you build a self-care regimen that fits into your life.


Forgive Yourself


The healing journey is never linear. You will likely experience challenges and setbacks as you learn to trust your new partner. And that’s okay. Self-forgiveness is an essential practice. Your therapist will help you remember that your past trauma is not your fault. It’s important to celebrate the small victories as you process your past and move forward.


The Collective is proud to offer individual counseling and other services for trauma survivors. Based in the Denver, CO, area, our team of mental health professionals provide support for a variety of behavioral health conditions and concerns. We support our clients through individual and group counseling, psychiatry services, health coaching, and holistic behavioral health care. Contact us today to schedule a brief consultation with one of our providers.


Does My Insurance Cover a Therapist at The Collective?


The Collective is partnered with several insurance providers to make our services more accessible to you. You can verify your insurance through our website before scheduling an appointment.